Sarah Tincher
Speech 1-3
October 20, 2005
Persuasive Speech: Why you should wait until Marriage to Have Sex
INTRODUCTION
TV, radio, magazines, you name it and sex is most likely in it. These days it is difficult to escape the pressures and temptations of sex for it is advertised everywhere. It almost seems like everyone is doing it. You do not have to be like everyone. Have you ever thought about the fact that when you have premarital sex you could be damaging your future marriage? While you cannot undo what has been done, I would like to talk to you about your future. Many will say that premarital sex is something fun to do and is no big deal. It is a big deal. Sex is meant for marriage, and when you have it in dating, you know your partner will eventually be married in the future correct? It will probably be with someone other then you. Does that someone not deserve to receive their spouse’s whole heart on their long awaited wedding night? Would it not hurt you to think about your future husband or wife intimate with multiple partners? What about your future son or daughter? Would you want your child to be with a mere boyfriend or girlfriend in such a deep and attached way, without any real commitment? It is a struggle to refrain from sexual activity, especially in the teen years. These are the years when hormones and temptations are running wild everywhere. By truly realizing the dangers and consequences of premarital sex you can try your best to save your virginity or to start all over and practice abstinence now. Through discussing diseases and pregnancy that can come from premarital sex, the unbearable emotions, and future marriage consequences, I am here to persuade you to open your mind and wait until marriage to have sex, or to stop doing it now and start saving it for your future husband or wife, for it is never too late.
BODY
Would it not be awful if you and your future spouse absolutely could not ever have children? According to www.matchingservice.com some diseases have no obvious symptoms and many couples discover years later that they became infertile because of diseases caused by sexual intercourse. The site states that 80% of infertile women are infertile because of the diseases. While condoms are not 100% effective www.christianteens.com states that there are over 600,000 cases of AIDS in the United States since 1981. www.wprc.org tells us that teens make up about one quarter of the 12 million STD cases. Why risk having a sexually transmitted disease? Consider the fact that there is absolutely no complete cure yet for HIV AIDS. What if you also got pregnant? www.candiesfoundation.org says that almost one million teenage girls will become pregnant this year. Again condoms are never 100 percent accurate and effective. Condoms help reduce your risk of disease but yet never make it impossible for you to get one, or impossible for you to get pregnant since they can break or slip. www.teenpregnany.org talks about how even birth control is not 100 percent effective to use and zero percent effective in preventing diseases. The only real way you can be sure not to get pregnant or an STD is by not having sex.
Most females cannot honestly and fully enjoy premarital sex because it usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places having to deal with fear of being caught, pregnant, or experiencing a tremendous load of guilt. A guy or even girl who waits for sex until marriage is saying to his significant other that he or she is more important than his own desires. It is saying that he loves her enough to respect her morals and wait. Many adults will tell you that they really wish they had waited. www.insight.org tells us that couples having trouble in their relationship sometimes use sex as a physical passion to patch things up. In the long run it does not patch things up. It makes things worse. When you and your partner break up you hold the consequences of unspoken promises that have been broken. Studies show that teen couples who have a sexual life in their relationship basically feel like they are experiencing a mini-divorce when the relationship comes to an end. Sex can easily become the focus of a relationship causing the supposed love and trust to be destroyed, causing a teen to develop low self esteem and maybe even depression.
Studies show that some marriages are negatively affected by previous sexual encounters a partner may have had before saying I do. If one partner was sexually active in the past, and one was not, it may be more difficult for it to be special and meaningful. Sex should be something beautiful and a gift for marriage. When you try your best to save your virginity for your spouse, the outcome can be numerous blessings. Your partner will not have to worry about you carrying a disease or your sexual past with other people. It will be completely special and sacred. You could give the most precious gift to the one who will love you enough to want to spend the rest of your life with you. There will be no regret or guilt.
CONCLUSION
In conclusion, beginning to abstain from sex until marriage, or forgetting your past and focusing on your future purity, can bring about a happier life and more meaningful relationships. You can be healthier and refrain from getting a disease, becoming pregnant or depressed, and you can better your future marriage. Sexual intercourse should not be taken lightly. You should have higher standards for yourself and know that you are worthy of being intimate with the person you are meant to be with in the long run. So do not sell yourself short. I encourage you to start practicing abstinence now until you are married, so that you can get what you deserve, and who you ultimately deserve it with. Someone who loves you for you and is not confusing love with lust. The rewards of waiting can be endless. True love is said to wait. Do you want your love to be true?